Cododo
directions for long peaceful nights!
Cododo, co-sleeping, bed-sharing, family-bed, kawa, ...as many terms invented to describe a nice way to mother and also to sleep!
The cododo is to share your bed or room with your child.
Because sleep remains a very important subject in the eyes of parents! Your pitchoun still doesn't make his nights at 6 months, 1 year, 3 years ... ? You suspect a sleep disorder? You talk about it to your surroundings, which can only see your fatigue anyway. And there are sometimes unpleasant tips for your pitchoun: lock him in his room alone and let him cry for a long quarter of an hour, then go console him for a few minutes and let the ruthlessly scream while waiting in the room next door, talkie in hand and tight heart, that your baby resigns and finally falls asleep. And don’t forget to leave him a doudou because it will be the only consolation and tenderness he will have during his long moments of anguish.
| Yes, he had the clean diaper, had eaten shortly before, no need to roast, in short, everything was perfect, and he only calmed when you took him in the arms. A hug is a need, right? As much as changing the diaper! a friend recently told me “when i’m not well, i’m not going to lock myself in my room with a plush, but i’m going to blot in my husband’s arms looking for comfort.”. So rather than charging a doudou to reassure your baby, why not go yourself? But a baby cries to evacuate the stress of the day you will repeat your parents, experts since older and having already had children. Your parents have followed the advice of their time, but scientific and common sense of mother have made many changes in minds and these advices are often inconsistent with the current context. But could you not help your pitchoun to evacuate this stress, as you cuddle it when it falls? A child and an adult does not have the same sleep cycle. So it is often foolish to talk about sleep disorder when her child wakes up at night. And it becomes absurd to try to “learn children to sleep” as physically unfit. A child will instead learn to resign and will always anguish at bedtime. Everywhere in the world, "cododotage" is widely practiced, and many parents use it by lassitude or desire but avoid talking about it |
However, breastfeeding and cododotage: what’s best for getting back to shape as soon as possible after delivery and spending long serene nights to evacuate fatigue? What a joy for a father to see his little pitchoun in the wake! What a joy for you to feel your little baby nesting warmly in the hollow of your arms. And your pitchoun will be more reassured for the night and to "digest" his anxiety of the day when he closes you, present to reassure him. Sometimes, too, the young mother has difficulty in creating links with her child, and cododotage, as breastfeeding, can help to weave mother-to-child bonds.
Benefits for baby:
1. thermal: it's hot against you. In some countries, skin-to-skin cododotage even replaces the elbows for premature ones.
2. regulates breathing: your baby follows your breathing and it calms it.
3. Increase its modes of awakening: the 5 senses interact all night, baby will touch her mom, will taste milk, smell her smell, .
You will also be able to monitor it more easily and thus avoid any "subtle infant deaths" (MSN).
There are cases of cododox MSN and in order to avoid these, it is advisable: not to have consumed alcohol, not to smoke, not to have taken drugs or drugs resulting in sleepiness, not to be tired to the point of not being able to meet the needs of baby, to check the safety of sleeping and to avoid covering baby (bedroom at 18° if possible).
But to remember: fewer cases of MSN are identified among cododox babies than among others.
Parents really watch their baby and detect the calls much faster than they launch.
Sleeping with her child is easier to sleep, protecting her, helping her to overcome her anxiety, helping her to grow and breastfeed comfortably.
To go further on this topic:
Share the sleep of his child, by Claude-Suzanne Didierjean-Jouveau, Préface d’Edwige Antier, éditions Jouvence, €4.90
Cododo or sleep with her baby" by Nathalie Roques: http://cododo.free.fr, free! It is this mother who has set up, among other things, the World Maternel Breastfeeding Week in France!
6 november 2006